i have both winME and XP home running avery good net connection..
but first i must say that it was a litteral pain in teh @.. to get it to work..
since your using a wifi router, its just another server (tho making sure your workgroup names are same) so go to c:/ or whatever thing you want and share it (right click->share), password/no password etc..
should show up in my network places or entire network>%workgroup%>%shared folder% or by typing in the ip address in IE..
or if you're having trouble with that (assuming you want direct X-over connection, but should still work with the router otherwise):
ok.. run home network wiz on winXp, next next next etc.. fill out like normal, create a network disk.
2. run the network disk on the winME, it will prompt you to boot. do so. set up the network wiz when it starts up... reboot if necisary.
between 2&3... share teh folders or drives you want to over the network..
3a. winME should pick up the network and give an annoying "PnP Device found click here" ballon or sorts.. dont bother with that, it just means everything is all good and you've done it right.
3b. if you're using logins to access winME (ie multi user) then you need to check the icon is two linked computers and the login heading is "windows network" or somthing like that, not the my computer icon. if you get the normal win login icon then login/logout or reboot, double checking that the physical networking device is connected and activated before you reboot/relogin
3c. winxp machine has to be on first to act as the server/make winME pick up the netwrk connection (dont ask me why) tehn winME...
4. goto network places or entire network yada yada yada and copy whatever files you want.. grab a snack and go watch tv for a bit, as transfering over 54g or 100 will still take a while (large files..
)
5. if it still have problems, goto network properties and assign static IP address to both machines..
thats off the top of my head, and i'm not gonna try do it again for fear of losing my delicatly crafted ME - XP connection
.. i may missed a bit but just a few tweaks here/there would fix it... Experiment