I need the driver for the lite-on cd-rw:
lite-on LTR-40125S
all links for this driver seems to be broken
if someone can help me please

There are NO drivers for this. All cdroms work without manufacturer specific drivers in Windows.

http://www.cdrom-drivers.com/drivers/62/62559.htm (Windows ME )
also try http://www.liteonit.com.tw/ODD/english/english-load-firmware.htm#LTR for firmware update