Ive exhasted most other options so...
I thought it would be pretty simple to replace my spegitti juntion of a network with a single router.

I need.
1 fairly good router with:
1 wan port.
wireless
1 voip port
BT client
1 port for sharing storage to window and linux.

I would like
good possiblely N class wireless.
some QoS
another voip port
usb2 power support or internal storage.
fast nas access.
media player with hdmi port(hey lets go the whole hog

its the last 3 options on my Need list that cause problems, I can only find two, ANY suggestion would be very welcome.

indeed; each of these are not router issues or features, especially the HDMI connection - - that's a video interface, not a networking connection.

USB2 makes no sense, as a router sets next to the modem and your systems NETWORKING devices attach to it. If you want to use Internet Connection Sharing(ICS) eg:

modem --- system ---- other system

the other configuration

modem --- router --- systems

is far more flexible and has better performance and control

Fast NAS access is dependent upon lots of factors, but 99.9% of the time, the router is not an issue in performance.

DIR-685 pricey though.. It has 300MHz Storage Chip for NAS also can run internal HDD. These USB2 on wireless router isn't what they're crack up to be. Don't be fooled into thinking they are. There is no chip support for them, they use the same processor in the router to manage those devices. Only the DIR-685 has a chipset other than the processor to work with USB2 and internal NAS storage.

My review on ESR-9850 you might want to look at it. Non-USB router but it has more power and it's dirt cheap.

http://tipstir.the-talk.net/hardware-reviews-f1/engenius-esr-9850-t1.htm