No i cannot set the voltages manually... there is no option in the BIOS...

and if this is true about EVGA and OCZ i could be in trouble... I hope this isn't the case, but the tech guy at EVGA didn't mention anything about it, but it may be something that they just haven't confirmed yet....

What is your BIOS version, i.e. Phoenix Award, etc.?

Well, my BIOS v02.67 American Megatrends, Inc.

and my AMIBIOS version is 0301 (not sure if this one is important)

Does your motherboard manual show any way for you to access the voltage? Usually they are grayed out to [Auto] but if you click it on it should open up a list of voltage options.

I got to hit the sack. I'll check in tomorrow.

The motherboard manual shows nothing about the BIOS

but IN the BIOS there are voltages greyed out, but they are the Vcore voltage (1.072V), and 3.3V Voltage (3.392V)

and there is no where where is says to enable the voltage selections.
The only thing that may be affecting that is under the Power tab in the ACPI Configuration option, there is then an option called "Suspend Mode" that is set to Auto.

... but still i don't even see DIMM voltage greyed out... the option is just not anywhere to be found in my BIOS.

Well, my problem turned out to be a faulty ram stik, just replaced it and it's all working fine.

Try to run memtest86+ in the second ram slot only, maybe it's a MB problem.