Stress is both a blessing and a curse...
Some of my best work has been done around 4 am in the morning when the project has to be deliviered by 8 am... But then again, some of my worst work has been around 4 am when the project has to be delivered by 8 am...
For me it has everything to do with motivation... Ie. when I wrote a short paper on why give away free heroin to the most serious addicts (please, if you want to discuss that, do it in a new thread), I got excellent feedback from those who read it... It was written in one night, though I'd researched it for about a week beforehand, and I was really motivated...
Though another paper written in one night (researched for 3 weeks) about how different philosophers through time has looked upon a persons soul, it became quite thin... I wasn't really too motivated, as the research wasn't easy (hard to find anything about that topic when you're an undergrad....), and I felt the problem was too narrow...
And I couldn't expand it, since I had (stupid me) waited until the last night to write it... (To my own defense, I had written 2 other papers the same week which were quite good)
My point is that unless you're motivated, stress is (at least for me) the biggest enemy... I postpone the project as long as I can, in hopes of finding some aspect/view that will give me the needed motivation, but when that doesn't appear, I find myself doing it the last night...
The papers then usually contains quite a lot of "fill words", and I work the entire night without "finding my way"...
Thus I've learnt that things I'm not motivated to do, I start doing as soons as I can, but things I'm really interested in, I can spend more time in research...
It doesn't allways work, but has improved the average quality of my papers...
Over to "you can be anything that you want"...
I too has gotten that info, and not only from my parents, but teachers, study advisers etc.... And yes, it can be a curse... But it depends on how one looks upon it...
The pessimistic way is thinking that whatever you choose to study/do, you have to be good at it... Thus you're under a lot of pressure, might not be motivated, and drop out...
The optimistic way of looking at it, is that you can try several different things, and then take the way that suits you the most... "Think outside the box" as one adviser told me...
That you have the possibility to do what you want to do,is good as long as you don't make it into an expectation to do it extremely good...
This. again, depends a lot on how friends and family understand/mean "you can be anything you want to be"...
For a parent, it is better to say "Whatever you choose to do, we will stand behind you", as that is a much more positiv way of saying it ..
For friends, it all depends on how the person says it to them... If you say "I'm so good I can be anything I want", then you've got the pressure coming, but if you say something along the lines of "The adviser told me I had a lot of potential, but we couldn't quite figure out what classes/whatever was right for me, so I'll just have to look around" there shouldn't be much (if any) pressure...
My point here is that if you've got the potentail, it's all about how you use it, and how you let others percieve it...
Lastly, EQ...
How do you define EQ?
Is it how well you get along with others? How well you can tell if someone of the opposite (or same if that's what you fancy) is attracted to you?
Does it say anything about how good you are to work as a team, instead of alone?
And how do you meassure it?
The reason I ask these Q's are that whereas I like the idea of EQ, I have a trouble with how you quantify it...
And IQ test will tell you how good you are at solving certain tests, and to a certain extent how likely you are to learn certain things better than others...
But an EQ test is based on things that imo isn't quantifiable... Ok, so I get along easily with some people, that doesn't mean I'll get a long just as easy with others... It depends on the chemistry (let's call it chemistry, though afaik it hasn't been proven) between the you and the other people... And so if you've got good chemistry with some, that doesn't mean you'll have good chemistry with everyone...
My point is that's it's a good idea, but quite useless...
You can't test it with a paper, so it'll have to be a practical test... And you can't test with people the person knows, as that'll offsett the scales.. But testing with people the person have never met might also throw the scales... There is simply too many variables, that the answer will be extremly thin at best and you might end up changing how the person behaves, because of the test, at worst...
I hope this made some sense...